10 online dating mistakes women make
You know a lot about the ways of the world, and you are fully able to take care of yourself.But safety always has to be your first concern when you are venturing back into the dating scene, where an atmosphere of implied trust can put a woman at her most vulnerable.You’re not a teenager anymore, and you know what kind of situations too much alcohol got you into back in the day.Even if everything goes very well and the man is simply wonderful, too many drinks can have all kinds of consequences.Another huge and unfortunate mistake that most men make with women is sharing how they "feel" too early on. This translate into dozens of times per week, and often HUNDREDS of times per month. Earlier I mentioned that it's a mistake to look to a woman for approval or permission. Women are approximately TEN TIMES better than men at reading body language. And if you don't know exactly what to do and exactly HOW to kiss her, and you just sit there looking at her and getting nervous, she won't help! and they're attracted to the way a man makes them FEEL than they are to looks alone. because they think that attractive women are only interested in men who have looks and money... But MOST women are far more interested in a man's personality than his wallet or his looks.Dancing, bowling, golf, a boat cruise, or even a couple of drinks and conversation can be a lot more fun with a larger party, plus you will be much more at ease.
Well, after a lot of hard work and trying all kinds of crazy things, I finally figured it all out. I've written a book on the topic, and I've done seminars on both coasts of the United States...
Have you ever noticed that the really attractive women never seem to be attracted to "nice" guys? Just like me, I'm sure you've had attractive female friends that always seemed to date "jerks"... Women don't base their choices of men on how "nice" a guy is. In our desire to please women (which we mistakenly think will make them like us), us guys are always doing things to get a woman's "approval" or "permission". Women are NEVER attracted to the types of men who kiss up to them... But if you think that treating a woman well means "always getting her approval and permission for things", think again. Women actually get ANNOYED at men who seek their approval. Just ask any attractive woman if Wussy guys who chase her around and want her approval annoy her... When you do these things, you send a clear message: "I don't think you'll like me for who I am, so I'm going to try to buy your attention and affection". This signals to the woman that you're just like all the other guys who fall for her too fast... And if you learn what they are and how to use them, YOU can be one of these guys.
but for some reason they were never romantically interested in YOU. They choose the men they do because they feel a powerful GUT LEVEL ATTRACTION for them. Being nice doesn't make a woman FEEL that powerful ATTRACTION. I realize that this doesn't make a lot of logical sense, and it's hard to ACCEPT... Until you accept this FACT and begin to act on it, you'll NEVER have the success with women that you want. They try to "convince" the woman to feel differently. YOU WILL NEVER CHANGE HOW A WOMAN "FEELS" WHEN IT COMES TO ATTRACTION! You cannot CONVINCE a woman to feel differently about you with "logic and reasoning". If a woman doesn't "feel it" for you, how in the world do you expect to change that FEELING by being "reasonable" with her? When a woman just isn't interested, we beg, plead, chase, and do our best to change her mind. How many times have you taken a woman out to a nice dinner, bought her gifts and flowers, and had her REJECT you for someone who didn't treat her even HALF as well as you did? Your good intentions usually come across to women as over-compensation for insecurity, and weak attempts at manipulation. YOU DO NOT have to "settle" for a woman just because you aren't rich, tall, or handsome.
It is not a time to reveal very personal details about yourself.
Sure, you might want to share a story or two about your deceased or divorced husband if he asks, but too much talk about him will turn off your date.